Young Family In Need

Our family is reaching out for support… please, if you can share anything even if it’s sharing our GoFundMe link to Facebook, Twitter or in an email

We pride ourselves on being able to support and care for each other without any outside help. It’s not an easy ask for us but it’s come to a point where the problem is just too much for us to do on our own. Their home is still torn apart and they simply don’t have the means to do it on their own. And now that their adorable son has arrived and is still without a room of his own. Since he’s so young he is still sleeping with his parents but it won’t be long before he will need space for himself.

https://gofund.me/552ec605

Our adorable new addition to the family

Young Family In Need

Our family is reaching out for support… please, if you can share anything even if it’s sharing our GoFundMe link to Facebook, Twitter or in an email

We pride ourselves on being able to support and care for each other without any outside help. It’s not an easy ask for us but it’s come to a point where the problem is just too much for us to do on our own. Their home is still torn apart and they simply don’t have the means to do it on their own. And now that their adorable son has arrived and is still without a room of his own. Since he’s so young he is still sleeping with his parents but it won’t be long before he will need space for himself.

https://gofund.me/552ec605

Our adorable new addition to the family

Desperately In Need of Support

This is an unusual post for me and a bit uncomfortable (I guess fitting for yet another Disparate Moment). I (and my family) are very proud and pride ourselves on being able to support and care for each other without any outside help. Well it come to a point where the problem is just too much for us to do on our own. I won’t elaborate too much since my daughter did such great job in her write up in the Go Fund Me link below. I will say this: a series of misfortunate events experienced by my son, his wife and their soon-to-be-born son has led us to this cry for help and any support, even if it’s simply to share our story would be very much appreciated.

https://gofund.me/772db8a4

My daughter-in-law and our precious grandson who will he arriving soon in our world. so grateful that they are safe and okay.

The Overdose Crisis: Let’s Keep Talking

With National Addictions Awareness Week coming up, my mind has been on the overdose crisis again. Actually, the crisis is something I think about all the time since I work in this field as a mental health and substance use counsellor in our local community.

As a team, we’ve lost many people to overdose. I watch the amazing team I work with struggle with the pain of lost lives. We know the hearts and souls of these folks who have become statistics in the media; these are folks who have shared their stories, hopes, dreams, and some of their darkest and most traumatic moments with us.

The clients I work with come from families just like ours. I know none of them want to live this way, to be a slave to a substance that, at any moment, could end their life. I see posts from Moms Stop The Harm about young Canadian men and women who we’ve lost to overdose. Families who have lost their sons, daughters, brothers, sisters, grandchildren…. Moms and dads who fought to bring their child back from the brink of addiction; families who had no idea their loved one was experimenting with substances until it was too late.

It’s also hits to home for me because I am a parent and I can’t help but worry about the five amazing children we (my partner and I) have. They are always on my mind. I can’t help but think “what if”… are they safe? And what about their friends? These kids have grown up in our home too… some of them have been a part of our lives since they were toddlers. These thoughts hang over me like a dark cloud some days.

And what pains me the most is how people are portrayed in the media: often it’s an “us and them” position that fuels a detached indifference. I see it reflected in the political will put into increasing awareness, and in developing and funding programs whether it be for treatment or prevention efforts.

I was disappointed – but not surprised – to see the indifference in the United States media. The number of overdose deaths that have occurred in the United States gets the odd headline and only when the CDC puts out their reports. The numbers are staggering: over 72,000 people have died of overdose deaths in 2017 and most of those are from opioids. That is almost double the rate of deaths caused by motor vehicle accidents in the U.S., which, by the way, receives a lot more “oh my goodness, we must do something about these staggering numbers” type media coverage. When I was googling to find information on the opioid crisis in the states, only a couple articles came up (and not overly informative). I found scads of articles on the “worrisome picture” of MVAs.

In Canada, we seem to be doing marginally better. With 10% of the population of the United States, we lost just under 4000 people to overdose deaths (according to a Canadian Govt website) in 2017. We’ve been hit harder here in British Columbia, probably because of our proximity to China where the synthetic illicit opioids (fentanyl, carfentanyl) are mostly likely coming from. We’ve also had more meaningful media coverage. Our governments and health authorities are working towards solutions to mitigate the crisis and keep people alive, but it’s frustrating when the barriers to treatment programs persist. People trying to access services are expected to prove that they are “treatment ready” or be “group appropriate” (these statements infuriate me).

We always seem to be one step behind, fighting fear, judgement and stigma. It’s a complex issue and there’s simply not a silver bullet or a magic wand, but I know we can do better.

References

CNBC. Traffic deaths edge lower, but 2017 stats paint worrisome picture. 15 Feb 2018. https://www.cnbc.com/2018/02/14/traffic-deaths-edge-lower-but-2017-stats-paint-worrisome-

National report: Apparent opioid-related deaths in Canada. (released September 2018). https://www.canada.ca/en/public-health/services/publications/healthy-living/national-report-apparent-opioid-related-deaths-released-september-2018.html

NIDA. Overdose Death Rates. August 2018. https://www.drugabuse.gov/related-topics/trends-statistics/overdose-death-rates

The Guardian. US drug overdose deaths rose to record 72,000 last year, data reveals. 16 Aug 2018. https://www.theguardian.com/us-news/2018/aug/16/us-drug-overdose-deaths-opioids-fentanyl-cdc

Head Injury: The Silent Killer — The Tragedy of “Makin’ it to the Show”

The reality of achieving your dream in hockey sometimes ends with consequences that are just not worth price of admission. Sasha Lakovic is coming out to the public in hopes that his story can help others and raise awareness of living with the long term consequences of concussions.

Sasha, your courage to tell your story with such honesty and vulnerability is so inspiring. I listened to you speak from your heart and in turn you touched mine.  I cried.